Personality Flexibility

Who are you?

Many dating websites ask personality questions so you can be paired with compatible matches. I admit I have gone through the process more times than I care to admit. Are you outgoing or shy? Do you prefer a walk on the beach or dancing in a club? It can be exhausting mentally, for building a genuine online profile takes time.

Though I haven’t gotten back on any dating sites this past year, as my truer self has evolved, I find I am not just one personality type or the other. I am a little of both. I like to think of it as having personality flexibility. And I own it.

I am an introvert. I typically find my solace in a good book, quietly sitting alone outside with a nice glass of wine. I’m more comfortable with smaller gatherings of people I know, those who know me. I require ‘me time’ to just be quiet and still more often than most. I have even begun to enjoy going to the movies alone on a weeknight. I own it.

Yet, I am an extrovert. I love being around people. Throw me into a larger gathering of unknown faces and you will find me chatting it up with complete strangers. I enjoy doing the unexpected, like diving into the ocean half dressed while my friends look on, silently wishing they had my confidence. I love going to concerts and squeezing onto stools at a crowded restaurant bar with friends. I own it.

Owning who I truly am has taken a lot of soul diving and truth seeking. I have had to come face to face with the good, the bad and the very ugly of me. It’s not been an easy road, but I am better for it. And though I’m not at my full-self-revealed destination yet, I’m determined to keep going. For I now know what I need to work on to get there. And knowing is half the battle. It will be worth it.

So whether I am living life in solitude or living it up in the outside world, I am striving to be me. And I will continue to strive daily to become an even better version of me. One who freely owns herself. One who when asked, ‘Who are you?’, will be readily available with her genuine-self response.

This is the me I want to break forth and share with the world…

From the solace of my front porch. Alone😏

Join me, won’t you?!