Lessons Learned at a Table for Two

There are many lessons I’ve learned while dating… Some came very easily, and others had to be learned the hard way.

A few key lessons learned in no particular order…

Not All Men Are The Same. I’ve heard it said and have said so myself, that all men are alike. But they aren’t. Other than his sexual organ, the only constant I have found in every man I have ever dated has been that he is on a date with ME.

Emotional Availability Is A Requirement. If you or they spend the entire first date talking about an ex and what has been done wrong in past relationships, there is a likelihood you will end up being the topic of conversation with their next date. We all have baggage, but it matters whether or not that baggage has been checked or is sitting under your feet the entire time that determines whether the flight will be pleasurable. Take the time to heal from your past. Your future depends on it.

Distance Matters. Dating a potential someone who lives 200 miles away that you’re only going to see once a month is not a relationship. It’s a breakup waiting to happen.

Own It. Being honest with yourself and your date is truly important. You should know yourself well enough to know if someone has potential to be long term. If not, the mature thing to do is to admit it and move on. There are plenty of fish in the sea. Sitting at home alone on a Saturday evening binge watching Netflix is much easier than being in the wrong relationship.

Impulsive Investments Aren’t Worth It. Unless you married young or have had a lifetime partner, we have all invested a part of ourselves we wish we hadn’t way too soon. Waking up the day after and doing the walk of shame home is not helpful to your well being. Don’t do it! Instead, if you must, try investing in something that you can pull out when the need arises and put away when the time comes. Your self esteem will thank you.

Men Are Not From Mars. I will expound on this in a later blog, but let me just say, men are not as different from women as they would like you to believe.

Checklists Belong In The Office. While having a good job, owning a home, being a Christian, non-smoker, blah blah, can be a great filter to use in your choice of a date, it is only while dating a certain person that you find out what really matters to you and what you actually want, or don’t want in a potential mate. Genuine compatibility cannot be found by initially checking off boxes.

Case in point….

Cup Size Doesn’t Matter. Not yours. And not his. Just sayin.